Tips for Successful outings…
Coordinating family activities can be a challenging task for any parent. But when one or more of your children have autism or a developmental disability, a simple walk to the park can become overwhelming, or could even prevent families from
enjoying much-needed quality time together.
Devereux Advanced Behavioral Health Director of Family and Community Services Amy Kelly – and a mother to three children (one with autism and intellectual and developmental disabilities) – shares six essential tips for planning recreational activities that will be fun for the whole family.
Have a plan
Prepare all members of your family – particularly your child with the disability – with a plan of the day’s activities. Your plan should be explained verbally and through visuals like pictures, maps social stories and schedules, to plot the day out ahead of time.
If you are visiting a museum, ask for a brochure to be sent to your home so you can walk your child through the day before you leave the house. The more your child knows what to expect, the more likely you all will have a great day.
Create an outing toolkit
Before you walk out the door, pack a bag with the necessary “tools” your child may need for a successful outing. This toolkit should include communication devices, a tablet for movies or games, sensory/fidget toys and other favorite items that will help soothe your child. Don’t forget a change of clothes, or special foods or treats to help your child have fun and remain calm. Having this toolkit can help stave off undesired behaviors and prevent a potential tantrum.
Be prepared to leave
Sometimes, even the best laid plans fail. If your outing is a day of family leisure, be accepting of the fact that you may need to leave early. Having this discussion with all family members will help set expectations and prevent emotions from running high if you need to make an early exit.
Although this can be disappointing, try focusing on the things that went well that day, and the success that your family made by going out in the first place.
Have an extra set of eyes
Don’t try to do it alone. Be prepared with additional adult supervision and assistance to manage the day, especially if you
have multiple children. This can be anyone from a therapist who can address the needs of your child with the disability, or a grandparent who can help attend to the other siblings when your full attention is required elsewhere. If this level of assistance is not available, the peace of mind that comes with the support of a paid babysitter can be invaluable.
Always research the venue before you leave the house and understand the risk factors. Whether it’s a park, a pool, a museum, or your own backyard, know where you are going and what can you do to prepare. If the space is out in the open and you know your child tends to wander, add a name-tag with your cell phone number to the back of his or her shirt (especially if they are sensory sensitive) with your contact information – just in case.
If you are going somewhere crowded, like a sporting event, make sure you have additional adult supervision to monitor the situation. Being over-prepared will always be worth any additional required planning time.
Recognize the little things
Life is about enjoying the seemingly small moments, which actually turn out to be the foundation for the big moments in our lives. It’s especially important for families living with an individual with disabilities to find joy in everyday accomplishments.
Appreciating time together as a family, with shared moments, laughter and the occasional ‘blooper and blunder’ are really what make lasting memories. Savor them!
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