As 2015 comes to a close, I’ve been reflecting back on the year and I can’t help but think about all of the ups and downs, the highs and lows, the successes and the disappointments. And as year two since my son’s diagnosis comes to an end, I have learned a lot about myself and the kind of mother I want to be.
I won’t say I have regrets because I feel that any decision I make regarding my son and his care is the absolute right one for him. However, this year brought on many questions and uncertainties. If I were given an opportunity to do some things over again, I would have followed my gut instead of listening to dozens of people and their opinions about what they thought was best for Max.
As parents, we do as much for our children as we possibly can and we try to set them up for optimal success at every given opportunity. Heck, if I hadn’t followed my instincts about Max’s autism who knows where we’d be today?
I’m sure there was a time when your child’s paediatrician said your child was ‘fine’ after you questioned his or her obvious developmental delays. I say this because it’s exactly what I experienced when I posed the ‘do you think my son has autism?’ question. I knew in my heart something was off, only to be dismissed. Looking back, I didn’t speak up and I allowed others tell me I was wrong. I didn’t follow my gut right away.
Did you wait to have your child evaluated because you were told not to worry? Or were you told “boys usually talk later than girls do” only to have that sinking feeling they were wrong? As someone who has been there, I can tell you that your gut feeling and those hunches are almost always on point.
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to parenting a child with autism. There are many good people who can guide us and share their expertise, but ultimately, we know our children best and our parental instincts should not be ignored.
We all have intuition but we often don’t consciously listen to it, trusting only what appears to be rational in our often irrational mind. So I’ve decided that one of my New Years resolution’s is to follow my ‘inner voice’ more often. Not only will this goal help me become a better mother, but it will make me a stronger advocate for my son.
On that note, whatever New Year’s resolutions you have for yourself, I hope it brings you closer to your goals.
Wishing you and yours health, happiness and success for a great 2016. Happy New Year!